🔗 Attachment & Intimacy Style
How close is too close? How distant is too distant?
Sometimes we long for closeness — and push it away the moment it arrives.
Sometimes we give more than we can sustain, just to feel secure.
This is the push and pull of intimacy: the dance between autonomy and connection.
Why This Matters
Our attachment style is shaped long before our first romantic connection. It grows from the emotional choreography of childhood — what love looked like, how safe it felt, and what it cost.
This category invites you to explore how you bond, what triggers your distance or clinginess, and whether you feel seen and safe in emotional closeness. Do you open easily? Do you test others to prove they won’t leave? Do you stay even when your heart has left?
Understanding your intimacy patterns is the first step toward rewriting them.
Key Themes
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Avoidant vs anxious tendencies
Do you pull away or hold on tighter when things feel uncertain? -
Patterns of over-giving or emotional withholding
Are you giving from abundance, or to secure your place? -
Fear of abandonment or engulfment
What scares you more — being left, or being consumed? -
Comfort with vulnerability and being seen
Can you let someone see you when you’re not at your best?
A Gentle Reflection
The way you attach isn’t wrong — it’s a strategy that once kept you safe.
But safety and connection aren’t always the same thing.
May you discover a new way of being close —
one that honors both your tenderness and your truth.